KALAU DAH JODOH……….

Assalamualaikum kawan-kawan. Hope korang semua sihat jer kay. By the way…… Selamat Hari Raya semua. Even though Ramadhan just leave us, it doesn’t mean that Syawal is the ‘month of feeding’. Yeah…. We were not fasting anymore and with the Ketupat & Rendang and also all the kuih Raya on the table, it’s quite difficult to control ourselves but please! Don’t swallow it all. Remember….. we are what we eat, not what we swallow.

Oklah…..malas nak mengarut lebih-lebih. Hari nie, during the Syawal nie kan, I ada satu cerita yang nak I shared dengan you all semua. Actually, ia lebih kepada luahan rasa and I really hope that kawan-kawan I kat luar sana can give a little bit of your opinion kay. Actually….ceritanya macam nie….. when I go back to my hometown for celebrating my ‘Hari Raya’, my mother ask me to find a girlfriend. In other word, she want me to getting married. Just because my abang and kakak are already married, so she thought that it is my turn now and just because she knew that I’m too ‘lembap’ for that stuff, so she find someone for me.

The problem is…… I’m not prepared for this. I mean I’m not prepare myself for getting married yet. I think that I’m not prepared to hold this huge responsibility. Yeah, I know that my age now is suitable for having a family but getting married is not as simple as we ‘main masak-masak’ like we do when we was a kids. My mother told me “alah, cubalah kenal dulu, lepas tue baru kawan…. Mak berkenan sangat dengan budak tue dan mak yakin budak tue memang baik orangnya”

Secara theory, biasanya mata orang tua nie lebih tajam dari kita kalau memandang calon suami / isteri nie. For simple example, kalaulah mak-mak kita datang ke rumah kawan-kawan sekampung, bila dalam rumah tue ada anak dara, mesti dia akan usha jer anak dara tue. Kalau dia tengok budak tue, rajin tolong mak dia buat kerja rumah or budak tue sopan perangainya, for sure dia berkenan but if bila dia datang ke rumah and tengok anak dara tue pakai seluar pendek…… tengok tv sambil garu bontot, confirm cancel nak jadikan menantu. Betul tak.

So, I think that my mom chosen is good but the question is…… itu jodoh I ke? Orang kata jodoh pertemuan tue tuhan yang tentukan kepada kita. Sama ada kita cari atau tak bila dah tiba jodoh kita, maka adalah seseorang untuk kita. tapi bila difikirkan semula, kalau kita tak cari, mana mungkin kita ketemu jodoh kita and nak menambah lagi rasa pelik nie, sometime in our life, even tak cari pun, ada jugak jodoh.

Susah nak difikirkan. I tak pasti lagi untuk berkahwin dalam masa yang singkat nie even umur I memang dah meningkat but one thing for sure, I’m not a gay. So, what ever it is, I will getting married when the time was come but not for this time. Bukannya I  tak cemburu bila lihat kawan-kawan I yang lain yang dah pun berkahwin and ada anak tapi jujur I katakan I memang tak bersedia ke arah itu.

When you decide to getting married, you actually deciding to change the whole of your life. When we getting married, we are someone’s husband/wife…..someone’s son in law/ daughter in law….. someone’s papa/mama. You have to share your life with your partner. No more been selfish. My problem is…… I’m not ready to share my life (my bujang life and that was awesome for sure ) with somebody yet. I’m happy with my life now and I really don’t know whether  I can hold this responsibility or not. To be honest, I’m scared and nervous to think about it.

Yeah….. when we only think about the ‘pleasure’ or ‘kamasutra’ of getting married, maybe we gonna say “I want to getting married now” but if we think in the whole aspect….hemm…. I remember one jokes that I read in the magazine, it’s say “ when we decide to getting married, we gonna have 3 ring:. First….. engagement ring, second…… wedding ring and the last one is SUFFERING!” ha…ha…ha, so funny hah. Yeah I know that getting married is not as bad as what it say but I still not ready.  

Hemm….jodoh…jodoh. One word that really hard to been explain. Kalaulah setiap orang tahu jodoh dia dengan siapa dab bila, kan senang. Tapi kalau dah macam tue, tak bolehlah kita cakap “kalau dah jodoh……”