Assalamualaikum
kawan-kawan. Hope korang semua sihat jer kay. By the way…… Selamat Hari Raya
semua. Even though Ramadhan just leave us, it doesn’t mean that Syawal is the
‘month of feeding’. Yeah…. We were not fasting anymore and with the Ketupat
& Rendang and also all the kuih Raya on the table, it’s quite difficult to
control ourselves but please! Don’t swallow it all. Remember….. we are what we
eat, not what we swallow.
Oklah…..malas
nak mengarut lebih-lebih. Hari nie, during the Syawal nie kan , I ada satu cerita yang nak I shared
dengan you all semua. Actually, ia lebih kepada luahan rasa and I really hope
that kawan-kawan I kat luar sana
can give a little bit of your opinion kay. Actually….ceritanya macam nie…..
when I go back to my hometown for celebrating my ‘Hari Raya’, my mother ask me
to find a girlfriend. In other word, she want me to getting married. Just
because my abang and kakak are already married, so she thought that it is my
turn now and just because she knew that I’m too ‘lembap’ for that stuff, so she
find someone for me.
The
problem is…… I’m not prepared for this. I mean I’m not prepare myself for
getting married yet. I think that I’m not prepared to hold this huge
responsibility. Yeah, I know that my age now is suitable for having a family
but getting married is not as simple as we ‘main masak-masak’ like we do when
we was a kids. My mother told me “alah, cubalah kenal dulu, lepas tue baru
kawan…. Mak berkenan sangat dengan budak tue dan mak yakin budak tue memang baik
orangnya”
Secara
theory, biasanya mata orang tua nie lebih tajam dari kita kalau memandang calon
suami / isteri nie. For simple example, kalaulah mak-mak kita datang ke rumah
kawan-kawan sekampung, bila dalam rumah tue ada anak dara, mesti dia akan usha
jer anak dara tue. Kalau dia tengok budak tue, rajin tolong mak dia buat kerja
rumah or budak tue sopan perangainya, for sure dia berkenan but if bila dia
datang ke rumah and tengok anak dara tue pakai seluar pendek…… tengok tv sambil
garu bontot, confirm cancel nak jadikan menantu. Betul tak.
So,
I think that my mom chosen is good but the question is…… itu jodoh I ke? Orang
kata jodoh pertemuan tue tuhan yang tentukan kepada kita. Sama ada kita cari
atau tak bila dah tiba jodoh kita, maka adalah seseorang untuk kita. tapi bila
difikirkan semula, kalau kita tak cari, mana mungkin kita ketemu jodoh kita and
nak menambah lagi rasa pelik nie, sometime in our life, even tak cari pun, ada
jugak jodoh.
When
you decide to getting married, you actually deciding to change the whole of
your life. When we getting married, we are someone’s husband/wife…..someone’s
son in law/ daughter in law….. someone’s papa/mama. You have to share your life
with your partner. No more been selfish. My problem is…… I’m not ready to share
my life (my bujang life and that was awesome for sure ) with somebody yet. I’m
happy with my life now and I really don’t know whether I can hold this responsibility or not. To be
honest, I’m scared and nervous to think about it.
Yeah…..
when we only think about the ‘pleasure’ or ‘kamasutra’ of getting married,
maybe we gonna say “I want to getting married now” but if we think in the whole
aspect….hemm…. I remember one jokes that I read in the magazine, it’s say “
when we decide to getting married, we gonna have 3 ring:. First….. engagement
ring, second…… wedding ring and the last one is SUFFERING!” ha…ha…ha, so funny
hah. Yeah I know that getting married is not as bad as what it say but I still
not ready.
Hemm….jodoh…jodoh.
One word that really hard to been explain. Kalaulah setiap orang tahu jodoh dia
dengan siapa dab bila, kan
senang. Tapi kalau dah macam tue, tak bolehlah kita cakap “kalau dah
jodoh……”